Jaachi Writes

Have you ever been in a room crowded with people and still felt lonely? The truth is, you can feel lonely anywhere, anytime. I’ve put together a guide to help you feel more connected to those around you. 1. Start small The best way out of loneliness is to start small with some simple social interactions. Try making small talk with the cashier at the supermarket or starting an IM chat via Messange, Whatsapp, Telegram, with a friend. Aye! It might feel super awkward at first, but these small interactions can help you feel less alone and isolated. 2. Hang out with like-minded people What are you into: video games, yoga, writing, music, books? Joining a club is an awesome way to meet and connect with like-minded people. Your school or community centre might run different clubs, so check out if there’s something there that’s right for you. Another option is Meetup. It brings together people who enjoy similar things or activities, whether that be fitness, poetry, photography, tech or, well …...

A couple nights ago, while chatting with a female friend, she asked to how how I am coping without anyone to talk to, in the neighborhood. I replied: 'I am coping pretty well. Thing is, although I am alone, I am not lonely'. Friend: 'It's pleasing to know that you're not lonely.'  Of course, being alone and being lonely aren’t the same. Loneliness feels draining, distracting, and upsetting; desired solitude feels peaceful, creative, restorative. According to Wikipedia, loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people. I do not feel lonely, not because I have a romantic partner to fall back to whenever loneliness beckons. Not because I have a thousand and one friends who drop by to gist, chat, laugh and ta...

Life is not a holiday at the beach where children build sand castles and play with pebbles. It is a fight for survival and a battle against the ever scheming, always furious arch enemy of God and man. Everyone is involved in the warfare. Unfortunately not everybody wins. Some ignore the battle with endless hopeless hopes it will automatically go away and are consequently wiped out by the unsparing enemy. Others are ignorant of the devices of the devil and are consequently destroyed. A few are dogged and fight to finish. Which are you? If you desire dominion here on earth, you most fight the good fight of faith. If you must enjoy life here on earth, you must get outta your comfort zone and go dare your fears. Believe in yourself. Yes you can! End of story. Doubt your fears. Fear limits you. It cripples you. It kills! Snap off it! Keep your heads up. You're not inferior to any superior. Alright? Keep your head upright, walk like you got this under control, and go make the win. Smil...

POEM 251: MOVE ON sometimes storm and a boy is terrified. sometimes calm and a boy feels safe and sound. sometimes sweet and the tongue dangle with drools sometimes stale and a boy dreads to belch sometimes up and low lands lay lower down sometimes down and above forever far sometimes there's neither this nor that that's when a boy circles the past move on, boy! #365DaysOfPoetry #Pengician #SSA Enjoyed reading? Commenting is now easy.  I introduced Facebook Comment feature. Please help my blog grow by leaving a comment and sharing with friends. Thank you!

We attract what we fear. Have you ever heard someone say this to you? In psychological circles, we are used to hearing that sometimes pain is the best medicine. This statement may surprise you or you may not even agree with it. But really, the truth is that every emotion we experience, whether positive or negative, teaches us something. Suffering, for example, is usually the best tool for developing our life skills. It carves out new roads and paths as we learn from loss, defeat and disappointments. Although there are some who prefer not to see the pain, there are others who are more inclined to hide it in the deepest corners of their minds, forever locking it away. There is no way to escape pain and it will be experienced from time to time in different ways. We will feel anger, resentment and frustration whether we like it or not. We cannot run away from these emotions. Whatever we fear, we attract. Today we are going to discuss the fear of negative emotions. When negative emotion tra...

POEM 149: FINDING HOME There's a music playing on the radio and the lyrics go like this: You have your heart drawn you had other feelings to hang your hopes on every road led you down the wrong turn never one ever loved you so much as to never let you go. Here to today, the next they're gone everything always felt wrong so you found another way. You've got an old guitar the way you strike the rusty chords could make gods rise to dance forget they're deity, and to you bow;            yet you feel alone. So you just play along and sigh            and when your grief-laden voice rise oceans ripple in moans and cry            until the moon ashamed hides and the sun takes cover behind clouds; so you found another rhyme. You have a large heart so large the universe could in it hide, but no one sees the hurt in your eyes... how sad, they only love your guitar and the music that you brew how it intox...

OGADIMA Ihe ojoo jo njo Ihe iske - uwa ojoo Echiela m onu na-ala. Atala m aja Nou ntu dika mmiri. Ndi mmadu wurum na-ala. Ahula m uwa - uwa ojoo Ma chere Obi m dajuo N'ihi na Chi nke m na-efe Ga ebuli m elu Mee ka onu ochi wa mu Mee ka onu m sa mbara Ma mekwa ka mkpi m di elu ozo. Eh! Ihe ga-agara m nke oma Abu m onye uwa oma na atumadi ihe mmekpa ahu Nke diri m taa. Agaghim ele anya n'ala N'ihi na agaghim ala ala. Aghaghim ile anya n'azu N'ihi na-abughim onye ikpeazu. Enwere m olile anya? Eh Ogadimma. Ekwere m ekwe? Eh! Ogadimma. Gini? Obu Nna m nke bi n'Igwe New elu, nwe ala... Odighi ihe koro m. Aga m emeghe onu m mbara Ka Chukwu Abiama Mejuputa mu na ngozi; Ogadimma. Echi ga-abu echi oma Ogadimma Chere, obi m Dere du, obi m Ogadimma. - Stefn Sylvester Anyatonwu Enjoyed reading? Please help my blog grow by leaving a comment and sharing with friends.  Thank you!

POEM 110: METAMORPHOSIS Still the air stiff is After days of rain and dew. Still my nostril itch Fresh air isn't yet due. Still dark this room Though sunlight peek through the cracks. Still I loop in gloom After humming all the tracks. Still trying to convince my shadow That I'm somebody worth following. Still walking this path narrow After several metamorphosis. - Stefn Sylvester Anyatonwu #365DaysOfPoetry #Pengician #SSA

My Facebook profile intro reads thus: 'A social vegan. I Avoid meet' Naturally, I am shy, withdrawn and a loner. I dread crowd. But I can't hide forever. My career path drags my unwilling shy self to the spotlight - to lead, to teach, to coach. I can't hide anymore. I'm left with one option; Step Out! Where I work, we have a business school and I am privileged to be one of the facilitators. Most times I feel jittery before mounting the podium to deliver a lecture. My palms get sweaty. I suddenly forget I am cute. Questions rise like tidal waves threatening to upturn my leaderSHIP. What will I say?  How will I start?  Won't I flop?  God! They are graduates! Look at their faces. Mean. Mature. Man! I can't even look at their faces. I fear I might stumble over words like a toddler taking his first steps. I write, majorly, because I find it difficult to communicate with speech. I flow better writing than talking. See why teaching scare me to... to what again? I d...

I'm trapped, trapped inside myself, I want to get out, get out and be free. I don't want to live in my shell, but I'm scared. Scared to take away my mask. Friends are ever letting me down, no matter how close they are. They are there if they have a problem, but when they don't, I may as well not exist. I want someone to trust and care about me.  Someone to cry on and someone to listen. I want someone to love me for who I am, not the masked me whom everyone knows. Unfortunately none of this can ever come true. Not from someone on planet earth anyway. Obviously, no one I know is perfect. This includes me. No one I know can fulfil this. Neither can I. Except... Someone I know who is watching down on everyone of us. I hear He has a special plan and a purpose for anyone who turns to Him. There will still be hardship and sorrow, but these will make us strong. He can be trusted. He is ever so faithful.  He cares deeply about each person on this earth.  He can be cried upon, an...

An Indian Girl married a Spanish man and went to Spain. She can't speak Spanish. Each time she want to buy Chicken Drumstick at the market, she would lift her skirt and show her thighs to enabled the seller understand her. One day she wanted to buy banana, she took her husband to shop. Do You Know Why? Because he speaks Spanish.  But I like the way you think. You see, people, we are what we think. How we react to situations is determined by the state of our hearts. What do you feed your mind with? Nobody is responsible how your life turns out. You are the driver of your destiny because of what you choose to do and how you chose to react to conditions around you.  How you are today spiritually, mentally, physically, is as a result of decision you took yesterday. The most important of all factors in your life is the mental food in which you live. It is the food, which you furnish to your mind that determines the whole character of your life. It is the thoughts that domina...